Weekly Wisdoms #7

And just like that we are 3 days in the new year. We have had such a wonderfully calm start to the new year. We have had cooler, rainy days which has been perfect for reading, chilling and playing endless games of scrabble.

Glimmers

(Glimmers are micro-moments of joy that make us feel happy, hopeful, and safe.)

We had a very calm New Year. We had burgers for dinner with David’s cousin, watched a movie and then Jack and I went to bed and David and Emma saw the new year in.
David and I have been playing endless games of scrabble.
Jack wants to start cooking more, so one night a week he will cook and this week he started with a mac n cheese that was a huge hit.
I have Emma’s first term planned! We are trying a more formal set up with her this year, at her request so we will see how it goes but we are both excited.
I have been starting my mornings with a cup of coffee while I read my book and I LOVE it! It is just the calm I need more of this year.
The kids have both been helping out which means the house is clean and relatively tidy.

My Weekly Wisdom

“Let them judge you.
Let them misunderstand you.
Let them gossip about you.
Their opinions aren’t your problem.
You stay kind, committed to love,
and free in your authenticity.
No matter what they do or say,
don’t you dare doubt your worth
or the beauty of your truth.
Just keep on shining like you do.”

― Scott Stabile

Let them! I was listening to a podcast with Mel Robbins last year when I first heard this and obviously since then I have seen it daily in my feeds but it is something I want to incorporate in the new year.

What is the let them theory?

It is a mindset tool that teaches you to just let other people make their choices and live their lives and stop making your job or responsibility to manage or control what other people are doing. Source

My need to constantly be in control is partly what landed me in the clinic last year. It is why I am struggling so much to allow myself to feel the deep sadness that comes with the loss of a child. It has meant I miss out on so much because I don’t want to lose control, or worse, appear to be out of control.

But I not only feel a need to control myself but those around me. One of the hardest things I have had to do as a parent is to let them be. It is something I consciously have to remind myself of every single day. For the most part I think I get it right but it is still a challenge.

More than anything it is exhausting! It is exhausting trying to control everything because it is simply impossible. I cannot control what other people do, say or how they respond. I cannot control how they react (or don’t react).

So I am going to let them be. I am going to let them all be and focus on me.

Cool Things I Found on the Internet

I have started reading again. And stumbled across this challenge that I think will help me to stay on track and not get distracted and abandon the books I want to read. If you also want to start reading more join us!

Meghan Markle has a new show coming out on Netflix, it looks like a fun show. I am team Meghan all the way!

Cape Town has made it onto the National Geographics list of best places in the world to eat. Having now spent a decent amount of time in Cape Town I get this and I haven’t even been to the fancy places. As someone with intolerances I can say that eating in Cape Town is a treat – there are so many options.