About Me : The Wisdoms and Wrinkles Story

I always struggle when it comes to writing about me in the context of a bio or an about me section. There is so much to say and so little all at the same time. If you ask me who I am – I am a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a business owner, a friend, an Aries and a blogger. But, to take from TikTok, if you ask me on a deeper level who I am – we could be here for days!

“I’m a bitch, I’m a lover
I’m a child, I’m a mother
I’m a sinner, I’m a saint
I do not feel ashamed.” Meredith Brooks

I always wanted to write. I wanted to go to Rhodes University and study English and just spend my days with words and books in a little cottage in a quaint British village. Life had other plans and while I am, sort of, a writer, there is no cottage or quaint British village but my journey has been a happy, adventurous one all the same.

When I found myself living back at home with my 2 children and a failed marriage I needed a space to vent, to process and to share. This led to HarassedMom being born and it became a big part of my identity, my livelihood and a place for me to document our lives. I shared my divorce journey, my maintenance battles, dating as a single mom, finding love and our lives as a blended family of 6. It was my safe space. It was my community and I loved building a brand simply by being me.

But then the kids got older, two of the flew the nest and I suddenly found myself deep in the trenches of perimenopause and I started changing. My two younger kids didn’t want their life to be so public and if I am honest I got tired about writing about parenting and reviewing kids toys. I spent years (literally it has taken 4 years) trying to figure out how to pivot on HarassedMom – I wrote about menopause, I wrote about getting older but it just didn’t feel right. It hit me recently in a coffee date with my special friend Eve, the reason it didn’t feel right was because I was no longer a harassed mom. Our live wasn’t chaotic anymore. I wasn’t constantly frenzied but most importantly I was moving from being “just a mom” to so much more. There is now time for me to do the things I want. There is more time for David and I to go on date nights and do things together.

I have reached the end of the HarassedMom season but I was not ready to completely let it and sharing my journey go. So Wisdoms and Wrinkles was born.

I will always be HarassedMom but I am now a lot wiser, have a few more wrinkles and ready to embrace this second chapter of my life – hot flashes, itchy skin and all.