Menopause Monday: Rage -It’s Not Just You!

I woke up a few days ago ready to wage war with anyone and everyone. It is more than just an irritation or annoyance, it is a visceral, bubbling rage that, if I am honest, scares me a little. It feels like a fire in my belly that just can’t escape. It just arrives suddenly, no warning, one minute you are just so angry, you can’t sit still. This my friends, is yet another symptom of perimenopause. Yeah, it’s a real thing, and you’re not alone in experiencing it.

So, why the rage?

Here’s the scoop: estrogen isn’t just about reproductive health. It’s also besties with serotonin, our mood-boosting brain chemical. When estrogen levels drop, it’s like your brain’s happy juice supply gets disrupted. The result? Hello, mood swings and irritability! Reminder to read this book!

But it’s not just hormones playing havoc. Think about it – you’re dealing with night sweats, insomnia, hot flashes, and a slowing metabolism. It’s like your body’s throwing a tantrum, and your mood is caught in the crossfire. Add in life stressors like teenage kids or aging parents, and it’s a perfect storm for some serious anger issues.

How to spot menopause rage:

• You go from zero to furious in seconds flat. Trust me when this happens you will know.
• Your patience has left the building, in fact it has quite possibly left the universe.
• Family and friends are walking on eggshells around you – they may actually leave the house for a while.
• You’re experiencing other symptoms like irregular periods, sleep issues, or vaginal dryness

What can you do about it?

1. Accept it: Don’t beat yourself up. This is a normal part of the menopause journey.
2. Track your triggers: Keep a journal or use an app to spot patterns in your mood swings.
3. Take a breather: When you feel the rage building, step back and ask yourself, “Is this situation really rage-worthy?” This isn’t always possible, sometimes you just have to lean in to the rage, feel it and then breathe it out.
4. Get moving: Exercise is like a natural mood booster. Aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate activity per week. This does definitely help, I was feeling particularly rageful so took the dog for a walk and I did feel somewhat calmer than I did before I left.
5. Watch what you eat and drink: Load up on fruits, veggies, and foods rich in plant estrogens (like soy). And stay hydrated! Dehydration can make mood swings worse.
6. Prioritize sleep: This is often easier said than done but is invaluable.
7. Cut back on caffeine and quit smoking: Both can make menopause symptoms worse. My advice on the caffeine, track how you feel. I cut out coffee for ages, then slowly added it back but I buy quality beans and only have 2 cups a day max. I have tracked how I feel and it doesn’t seem to impact me too much. I don’t drink it because I crave it or need the energy, I genuinely like the taste.
8. Try mindfulness: Meditation, yoga, or even a simple nature walk can help ground you. When you are deep in rage, mindfulness is the last thing you want to think about but a rage walk can, definitely help.
9. Hang with your girls: Sometimes you just need to vent to people who get it. This works so well. A rage session or even a whatsapp to Eve and I instantly feel calmer.
10. Consider hormone therapy: Talk to your doctor about whether estrogen replacement might be right for you. If your rage is starting to impact your life, then definitely seek help!

Remember, menopause rage isn’t your fault, and you’re not going crazy. It’s a combination of hormonal changes and life circumstances. Be kind to yourself, try out these tips, and if you need it take a time out – even a short solo walk or a bath can help.

You’ve got this, and this too shall pass!