This week we did a lot of processing of a lot of things.
We are all still processing the loss of my mom in law. There has still been a lot of tears, exhaustion, anger and sadness.
It also brings up the loss of Cameron again which has meant more processing.
My oldest and I are having a little moment with one another. I hate the conflict, especially because she is far and our communication is via message so I think a lot gets lost in translation. I am trying not to over react or transfer feelings to her that I shouldn’t.
I stupidly, read something about Fergie and her involvement with Epstein and it upset me. I really liked her, but obviously we don’t get much royal news her so maybe it wasn’t such a shock? But I am trying to process why people do the things they do!
Emma and I went clothes shopping. She is 12 and while we are not petite people, she is a VERY normal size for a 12 year old girl. Firstly all the clothing stores we went into had ONE shelf of clothes for her age group – not a long shelf – maybe 8/9 items for AN ENTIRE AGE GROUP! At the one store we did a quick comparison – a little shirt for a 1-2 year old was BIGGER than a top for a 9-10 year old – HOW?????? Another only had skirts and dresses – no shorts, no leggings, no shirts – just dresses and skirts! WTAF. I can’t even process how an entire age group of children has been completely ignored. AND it is the age group that cares the most about what they are wearing.
I hope you had a FANTASTIC week!
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Sending love and hugs. It sounds like you have a lot of processing to do. It is hard trying to communicate via messages, a lot does get lost and can be taken the wrong way.
I was shocked about Fergie, I always thought of her as down to earth and one of the people. She must have known what Epstein was when she took her daughters to visit him, so so wrong!
I remember shopping for my girls when they were around the same age and there was a lot less for their age group which is a real shame because like you said it’s that age they do care about what they are wearing!
It’s so hard to keep up with proper communication when our kids are far away and we have to resort to texting! I dont like it, but then again, we have it better than some generations ago, don’t we? I havent kept up with the Epstein stuff much at all. The little I’ve heard just sounds too gross. Don’t know what’s happening with clothes for preteen girls either! Hope you eventually got some things for her. Have a fab week ahead too.
Sometimes processing things are really difficult, but the fact that you are processing them is the beginning, not the end. I hope you work things out. I was shocked about Fergie too, more than Andrew really. Fergie writes children’s books, works for charities and took her teenage daughters to a paedophile’s party. Having known a paedophile personally I can’t really listen too much. I always had trouble with teen girls clothes, we have some shops that are good for catering but my girls are tall and nothing really fit at that age so they’ve been in adult clothes way before they were adults. And a lot of the clothes still fit!
I’m sorry to hear that it’s been a difficult week for you. I think miscommunication with older children happens so often, especially when they live far away. I hope it can be resolved soon.
Clothes shopping as a female is, in general, frustrating; sizes have never made any sense, but it is definitely getting worse for pre-teens and teens.
I hope you and your eldest can resolve your issues, it’s not easily done with messages. Clothes shopping is not my favourite activity. Sizing is ridiculous.
What a tough week for you with processing things and dealing with your grief over the loss of your mom in law and the triggers it brings with the loss of Cameron too. I hope that the little moment with you and your oldest eases soon – it is hard when things get lost in translation. I feel your pain with clothes shopping – Sophie is the same age as Emma and we’ve found a similar situation with there being very little choice in the shops for that age range. There seems to be a gap between sizes for older children and small adult sizes that has been missed. Hope that this week has been more gentle with you. #WotW
Sorry to hear you’re struggling with processing this week, the connection with the loss of your mother in law and the triggers with the loss of Cam are hard. Shame you and K are so far away, I agree the tone gets lost with messaging, I hope you find a way to work things through.
I really struggled with the boys with clothing when they reached the age of 12-15. Not big enough around the waist to move into adult clothing, for dans’ school trousers I had to pick them up in the UK and alter the length. I’ve just bought some outfits for my 10 month old grandson, different stores and ranging from 9-12 months in size to 2 years and all fit him. #wotw